Still together but trying to save this

[25yearsmlc]

Marriage counseling round 2 was of no help. The OM came out and she just kept defending her stance that it has nothing to do with him, when it has everything to do with him.

Not true...Earlier you said YOU realized she was unhappy before he came into the picture. You also admit YOU have some major behavior and emotional issues that crippled your social life and damaged your marriage for awhile.

I'm not blaming you for her interest in OM but I am holding you to your own words. It is just so easy for the LBSer to stop looking at the work THEY have to do and blame it all on OM...'

you'll miss the one good thing that can come of this ordeal, which is a serious look within, and CHANGING yourself so you can become the man you were meant to become,

no matter what SHE chooses.

(It also happens to be your best chance of influencing that choice)


She even admitted that she would be trying harder if it weren't for him.

of course she would. She'd have no apparent option but being alone if it weren't for OM and she'd put up with more...Plus She now knows that not all men act like you did, and it's lessened you in her eyes.

Give her some time to see the new (or old) you. You've hardly been here long.

She doesn't trust that your changes are real or lasting. She assumes they are tactics to get her back and that's IF she has noticed them and that's IF You have made any...

---. I am not giving up. I am getting out and hanging out with friends and working on me and having great success. I just wish she saw that and she isn't in the house anymore so she will never know.

she WILL see you again and the time apart will make changes more noticeable. Wear a new outfit and a different NEW cologne and be upbeat, etc.


At least I get to have one last dinner with my wife. If I would have know Thursday would have been the last time I got to sleep next to my wife, I would have stayed up all night and cherished every second...

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