Still together but trying to save this

[PeteWyo]

I agree, it is tough but it is what I have to do. Here's a question though that I have been thinking a lot about. I can work on me, but she has some serious things to work on too. Most of the issues that we had were either miscommunications or her taking a conversation the wrong way. Neither here nor there really. But I do want her to address those issues as well. If there is any hope for us, she needs to address her confrontation issues as well. Is it fair for me to try and help her too? If so, how do I go about that and detach at the same time? I could use some advice there. With or without me I don't want her to have to go through her life that way.