We attended our 1st post session today. We continued to learn to communicate through dialogue to build a more solid foundation for our relationship.
The most profound part of today was when my W brought up some difficult times in my life in describing "devastation" in voluntary open discussion. It brought some very deep emotions to the surface for me.
A short time later, my W and I dialogued about the strongest feelings we had today. The strongest feelings for both my W and I occurred when she shared that part of my life.
To paint a better picture for you, during Christmas of 09, we were at my sister's house visiting with my parents, my best friend and both of our wives. I would have never imagined that after that visit, my life would never be the same. My dad passed away 2 weeks later from cancer Jan '10, my W asked me for a D in Nov '10 and my best friend passed away unexpectedly in Sept 11.
For the mostpart I suppress my feelings. Now, I am able to express my feelings in a new and different way for myself.
The point I am getting to is that my wife apologized for not being there for me when I needed her the most and she said she put her own selfish needs first. It was a very pleasant surprise.
I really feel good about the direction of our R/M.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
