It's been awhile since I have stopped by Vero. Seems to me like you have come a long way. You are keeping your emotions in check and are cognizant of them to create any unwanted drama. Kudos to you.
The boundary you set is a good one. It won't be easy and you will most likely be tempted to communicate with your H. You will gain more respect from him if your actions align with your words. In this case your boundary. He'll come to the realization that you are protecting yourself and putting yourself first.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa