Did i always or even usually desire s e x after those compliments?
No i did not. I am by nature a more cuddling and hugging type of affectionate person. I understood that she had, during our 1st 8 years together, a lower s e x drive. She did not like during night s e x or wake up sex, just before going to sleep s e x. That frustrated me bit o figured that was just the way it was. I did feel rejected though sometimes.
I absolutely never forgot a hallmark day or a special event day. 3 months after her mom died, i kidded her about her getting a happy birthday card from my insurance agency and said i was glad they went a reminder. In reality, i had already picked out some nice jewelry for her. I found out months later that she was pizzed off because she thought i did forget. She did get her gifts and card with sentimental writing on time, but held onto believing i forgot.
I usually over shop for multiple gifts when i have a tough choice.
I did not Expect s e x as my reward. I just wanted to know she liked what i got her.
Sometimes, i think she felt like she didnt get me enough compared to what i got her i read months later. I didnt ever complain because i liked what she got me and i mostly like that she remembered. The best gifts to me in my opinion are a card with personal writings included in it.
We had different sleep schedules and i went to bed later than her or many times because i fell asleep in the recliner chair. I have since thrown that away, partially due to some damage and because of what it represented to me for allowing me to miss going to bed with her. I also used to complain to her, that she should have woken me up to go to be in bed. As if that was her fault, ..... What an Azz i was being.
Okay, thats an hour of typing on my cell phone.
I have something she said to me earlier today that i am not sure how to interpret, but i will get to that later, as well as the next question.
Ed
Me, 55 W, 36 T, 10 yrs S-9 M, 8 yrs 1st D-Day, 9-27-2009, With 1st bf, ea/pa 2nd D-Day, 12-5-2009, With her best friends bf, ea/pa W, AA relapse early 2009-Current W moved out 2-16-2012 New OM 5-2012