Can anyone guide be how to effectively detach when we live under the same roof.
You have to come to grips with the fact that no matter what you do, you may lose her and be ok with that outcome because you know that you and your kids will be alright. Decide that while you may want her, you don't need her. Until you do this you cannot detach.
Be pleasant, but don't go out of your way for her. Give her space, but don't ignore her or act cold. When she opens up to you, do the same. When she avoids you, don't pursue. This is where I've been for 6 months now.
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The hardest part I have about not leaving is this seems exactly what she wants. She wants me to stay there, fund whatever needs to be funded, and she is left to do whatever she wants!
You keep saying this. What do you mean? She can do whatever she wants no matter where you stay. Stay in your house and do what YOU want.
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She just seems to be actin like a teenager. All her new found friends are 20 something's and single.
This sounds like MLC. If it is, hang on, you're in for ride. Check out the stickies in the MLC forum.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
