Not sure if this is going to work

[25yearsmlc]

To be together for the logistics of an intact family does not make for a long lasting relationship. And is not what a real marriage looks like. There has to be a real love and respect.

you have to be good AS A COUPLE without children, (as if your d did not exist)

to be a good MARRIED COUPLE, raising children and handling the curve balls life WILL throw at you, year after year.

I have serious doubts about your readiness for this r, regardless of his efforts

Have you spoken with your IC about your expectations of him, and of yourself?

Do you have specific expectations of how you'd like YOU to behave,

and how you'd like things from him or any other man?

Sounds like something to really figure out BEFORE another child comes around, and before you set yourself up - OR HIM-, for getting hurt and then having your d even more confused than before.

I'm with GM as far as him putting her to bed and taking her overnight.
it's More than most guys who never married someone, did. But that's about his fathering...

And that's the other thing, IF- IF

IF you do reconcile, are you going to get married?-- which I advise YOU NOT bring up anytime soon...

OR

Have you let go of that as a goal? As I recall, you felt VERY vulnerable when the r went down the drain and you have little legal protection other than CS.