We're all rubbish at it because it's like learning a new language. I wouldn't push trying to see him as it's best if he has time to lick his wounds without being reminded of the person who he sees as the cause of his wounds. You most likely aren't the cause of his problems but that's the way most WAs see it. Make sense?

Let him tell you how he wants to handle the mail. Stop trying to fix. That's the hard part but when you want to fix something, ask yourself: Is this my problem to fix?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss