Yesterday while grocery shopping together, my wife tells me her coworker/friend J is such a mess, and hearing about it makes her happy because then her life doesn't seem so bad.
J (a gay male in his late 40's who just ended an affair with a 20 year old boy) and her get along good and sometimes do lunches together. He tells her and everybody else the details of his relationships. I wonder if he's going through a MLC himself.
Wife won't tell him much about our situation, because he's a blabber mouth and she doesn't want it known across the office. She's already calculated which friends she might lose, and which supervisors would hold it against her if they learned she wanted to bail on me. Always wears her ring to work to keep up the illusion, even though she doesn't always wear it other places.
She talks about J often though, and even told me back in April that he knows her better than I do. I've been working on that.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
