Hi Punkin, Welcome to your new home. I've read your stitches many times and I wish the outcome had been different but it is what it is. The good news, as you have learned, is that now you get to find you again.... I have no children so there is no contact with my XH. I think it's a good thing for moving on a bit quicker. There are still flashes of anger, but I just let them move through me and they don't last long. In some ways, XH gave me the best gift of all in finding myself again. You will too, but there's no time frame for all of this. Are you finding good books to read? I found many that were a wonderful resource. As for dating, well...I waited a good 18 months from the time he left in 2009 and I've taken breaks from it. As long as you have no expectations and just think about meeting a new friend, it's really okay. I still 'comparison' shop at times, but mostly that's gone. We're all pretty emotionally messed up and it's just deciding what 'baggage' you can live with from the other person. I look forward to hearing more from you....
Lynn
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
