Thanks RH but I am only a cool cucumber on the surface. Underneath I am very fearful of the future. Deep down I believe my H does love me and doesn't want a D, but he is struggling with these issues that he doesn't understand himself. That's why I am willing to support and be patient with him and use GAL to meet most of my needs for now. I read your current post on your thread and will comment there soon. Go enjoy yourself RH and take your mind off your sitch, I know how it overwhelms us most of the time.
Labug I stated a boundary a few months back after a confrontation with H. After a ML incident, he told me he still wanted to proceed with a D. I validated and said I was ready to move on. But it really hurt me and I went on an internet dating site (stupid) thinking it would make me feel better if I got some attention. He found out and threatened to take me to L immediately to fasttrack this thing (his words). At that time I told him he was not to continue to threaten me as he had done repeatedly over the last 12 months. I was doing my best, but am bound to backslide and make mistakes. If he was really serious he should go to the L and get the D. Then he would no longer have me to blame for his problems. He never mentioned D again, except his attempted threat the other day over the shirt thing. He seemed to pull back after saying "I knew you would never change". I think he realised.
He didn't seem to remember the other 3 times previously when he has done the same thing. He looked completely confused when I mentioned it.
