Wow Sam, you are a model of DB'ing! Fantastic update!! I'm glad to hear things are going so well, your efforts are really taking root. You're showing incredible poise and fortitude and doing a great job of rolling with the occasional punches your W throws. I was particularly impressed with this:
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She told me she does not know what she wants. I told her I understood her feelings and I understood why she might think my changes are not permanent and I really do understand. Not just saying it.
Excellent response! You validated her emotions without agreeing or disagreeing. Perfect.
Great to hear your 180's are no longer 180's but are just part of you now. I just mentioned the same thing in my thread about myself. It's a wonderful feeling, isn't it? Even though we may have started them to appease our W's, at some point we realize they're needed for US rather than them; and the benefits extend beyond W to the kids, friends, clients, coworkers, etc.
Keep it up, you're doing fantastic!!
LOL - doubt I am a model of anything. Still have good days and bad but I am really embracing "mindfullness". I think I always lived in the past and the future and rarely enjoyed the moment. Living in the moment has been my biggest change really.
You are right though that these changes are for me now. Also based on my specific S I am not doing any scripting. If I say I understand it is genuine. You are right too that no matter what happens my kids will benefit greatly from these changes in me.
