i may be wrong but it seems this is still a decision coming out of a lot of emotion ...a lot of hurt.
i know you are in pain....however, if this is your decision, IMHO i would suggest to sit on it for awhile.
Like zig said, H and OW are irrelevant right now. this is about YOU and your children. and no one else.
Love you jks..hope you are doing better today (((( ))))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home