Haven't been to the boards that much...but this post caught my eye. My H and I did Retrouvaille a year ago, and yes, it has helped us so much that we have decided to volunteer and now we do the registration of couples in our area.
We do have to deal a lot with the same kind of concerns you bring up, unbidden. What 25 says is true - there is no pushing of religion to the attendees. Its just that the core values and beliefs on marriage and family is aligned with the Catholic faith,and there is a priest who presents his own struggles, sort of expanding to how the same problems that cause marital strife can also be seen outside of a marriage. There are some prayers, and a mass at the end which you may opt out of (some couples did in our group).
The tools for communication that are taught by the program are not religious in nature at all. The program really is more about concentrating on yourself and your spouse, looking in and discovering things both about yoursef and the other person.
I urge you to go, in my case my H even said he no longer loved me/didn't love me in the first place, and now we are trying to make a new life and we are in a good place.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
