I definitely hear what you're saying Starsky, and it makes a lot of sense. I think what's at issue here is this: I think she's operating under assumptions here as to why I'm not reaching out. I told her months ago that the reason was to give her the "Time and Space" that she asked for... So there's a good chance that what she thinks is happening now. I've never had the opportunity to tell her that "I know about OM and can't be a part of your life while he is..." conversation... Instead, after a friend told me about some stuff posted on FB, my original game-plan changed completely from having that conversation to not having it.

I'm not trying to be argumentative, and I'm still not sure where I fall on this discussion, but I greatly appreciate your input!