Rough: Just catching up.....I haven't spent much time on here the last week or two. I've been incredibly busy and also really just wanted to take a bit of a break here. I think I was using this place as a crutch a bit and need to get into the real world a little more.
I wanted to tell you that I have and will pray for you. As others have said i've been there and its tough....real tough. We seperated about 7-8 years ago now and went through the OM thing....she'll justify it at some point by saying 'she' was 'done' with the marriage anyway.....of course, as others have already told you, theres also a chance she hasn't done a thing and just wanted to say something she knew would cut you. Its amazing how they will act, especially if they're not getting what they want. I'll repeat the mantra...believe none of what they say...im repeating that for you and for me because its so true.
Keep moving forward until you know that your done....thats really all you can do. You can't put your life on hold and wait because things may never change. So you get up each morning and move forward....and it gets easier, not right away, but it does get easier. No one ever wants to find themselves here, and im sure that any one of us would say we wouldnt wish this on our enemies....but here are the facts.
We're not the first people to ever find themselves in this situation, nor will we be the last. Others have gone through as much or more and have come through this as better people. And finally, as hard as it is to think about right now because my family and my wife were the most important things in the world to me even if they didnt know it.....but here's the big one...you were happy before you met her and you can and will be happy again. Your next relationship can be made great by what you do now, and your next relationship may very well be with your wife, but what you do now will determine whether its great or whether 5,7,10 years from now your back here posting on this board. Take it from someone who didnt learn that the first time.....what you do now can and will determine how your relationships go in the future. Use this time to improve yourself and let everything else take care of itself.
