Thanks for the update! Sorry you're still struggling, but it's understandable. We work so hard to get our spouses back that we don't really address the underlying issues of whether or not we can trust them until after they've returned, then suddenly all the questions come bubbling to the surface. Are you in MC? If not, that might be a good idea. You probably won't be able to resolve your trust and forgiveness issues on your own. You might also check into Retrovaille, from what I've read it does wonders for communication and a lack of trust can be a direct result of a lack of good communication. Good luck!