Thanks for the advice Starsky,I didn't know how to respond to the text so I didn't. I know what to say now.
Boundaries- I did not know how to approach the boundary situation so I just said it. He tried to tell me I was treating him like a child by telling him to put away the cell phone but I stood my ground. I did everything wrong in the beginning by trying to appease him. I was scared and didn't want to do anything to anger or upset him. I let him talk and treat me like a doormat. I felt like a fool when he would talk and text so nicely with her then turn around and bite my head off. He kept the phone on the end table on his side of the bed so he could check msgs and text all night. It kept me in tears and feeling weak. I felt like they were laughing in my face. I thought about moving into the spare bedroom but DB says not to do that. I did it for me and I feel so much better because of it. It's still a painfull process but the more I set boundaries,detach and GAL, the stronger I feel. And, it seems he is finally curious about the 180's I've done.
