Divorced Thrd #6/Long Road Ahead

[Mrs D]

PMA might also be low because I see nothing changing in the relationship.

MrsD,

I know this is painful for you, but there IS no "relationship," other than as ex-husband/ex-wife. There may or may not be one in the FUTURE, but until you get to a place in your own head and heart where you stop viewing this as "the relationship," I think you are going to be forever stuck.

I'm NOT trying to be mean here . . . I'm seriously trying to show you compassion and (along with Brian and some others) get you to a place where you need to be in order to HEAL and work on YOU. Only then will you be in a healthier place for your next relationship . . . whether that's with your ex-husband or with someone else.

That's not to say you give up HOPE; you do, however, have to deal with the brutal reality of your current situation (look up that "Stockdale Paradox" thing again that I suggested to you earlier).

Hugs,


Starsky

Thanks again Starsky. I guess when I say relationship, we dont even really a friendly one at this point. And I know maybe eventuallu we will get there, but its hard to go from 12 years to nothing. OK. I can do this. We have absolutely nothing anymore but our son. And it hurts.

I have the Stockdale paradox quote on my desktop. Read it daily. ..

Thank you Starsky. I know you mean well. I just have to see what it is and ge ok with it.