I've been reading quite a bit but I haven't posted on my thread in a while. My H has been taking me on an emotional rollcoaster. I thought I was doing good by GAL now he has begun to snoop through my phone and FB account. He ask that I delete some of my friends and avoid contact with the ones he doesn't like. Yesterday he sent me a text that read. "I know I am an a'hole and I'm sorry. I love you and I'm trying to fix things. I hope you can forgive me one day. I love you". I asked him what is he doing to try to fix things (since I'm no longer snooping)and he said he is trying to stop the affair but it's so difficult for him. I wanted to breakdown and cry (why does he love her so much)but I did not. I do not know what to say to him or how to respond to the text. HELP
I would start learning to respond with statements like "Yes, this has been very difficult on all of us." or "I appreciate the note; I think we both have some decisions to make." etc.
Things that are value-neutral, (you don't want to say "that's OK," when it's NOT okay), and that demonstrate that HE is not the only one driving the marital bus here.
Never entrust the endgame of your marriage to the one who doesn't have its best interests at heart at the moment.
