Thanks Chatter. I feel like I'm doing a much better job at detaching, but I'm sure being dark is the most helpful tool there. Whenever I reach out to her, I backslide in the detachment process, hence the anxiety over this simple communication. I'll certainly make it a goal to remove the anxiety... It'll be a tough one!
That's cuz you're a classic "pleaser"/"rescuer"/"Nice Guy" -- like I am, Alk.
It takes discipline, but you can grow in this area. In fact -- if you'll allow it to -- this painfully difficult time in your MARRIAGE can give you skills that you will then use to improve the rest of your LIFE . . . regardless of how the marriage turns out.
