DLS, are you as easily swayed by your friends as you seem to be suggesting JAG's W is? Or am I misinterpreting your words?
There aren't many people in this world I would take relationship advice from, other than people from these forums and maybe a good relationship in a church setting.
I am not following or fitting into any herd. I'm saying that many time these cheaters ARE following their friends, who enable the affair.
I'm suggesting that Jag's W has a couple of "friends" who know about the guy. This is almost always the case, and they essentially support her in the decision "as long as it makes you happy". That's how it goes down.