Right now you have to stop thinking about YOUR needs. This time is all about her right now. It s@cks, but this is the way it is right now.
Have you spent your time fixing the things that she had issues with you for?
Hi Mr Bond!
Thanks for the advice. I am past the inequity of the situation. I was worried about her mental health and she confirmed that she feels like she is in a depression. This is my time to take care of her and if something bothers me I just move on and realize that this is just a moment in time and it will pass. I do feel very fortunate right now to have this opportunity.
In regards to fixing my wife has said quite a few times I am now a "perfect husband". It is not an act even though she is afraid it is. She also told me yesterday that I have made this so hard on her and she was angry about that. That if I had just continued being a jerk (paraphrasing) her decision would be easier. Clearly she is in conflict right now because of my changes. I do feel I have addressed everything behaviorally that I am aware of.
