Thanks for that LaBug. Many of the things you said about your H I can relate to. My H is proudly subborn and won't initiate that conversation either. I'm not sure if its such a bad thing, I just don't know. I'm still working on some theory's in DR and other R books that I have read. Given that I was sleeping alone in the spare bedroom for going on 5 months and am now back in the marital bed is great progress.
However, the control issues my H displays just stun me. He is bordering OC I think, and definitely MLC/depressed. I sometimes get the feeling he regrets his outbursts and because I usually don't react it does diffuse the situation somewhat. So go me!! He has to live with himself. What does worry me is that his rages in the past have been when he demands a divorce, says hurtful and nasty things, upsets the whole family and of course devastates me. I'm not sure how to insist that it stop and he communicate his concerns to me in a respectful way. I think in time if our R is stronger I will have to approach that subject. Any advice would be appreciated.
Still its not all bad, he is loving and thoughtful, he is just a very ANGRY MLC'er too. Being aware of that really helps.
RH the book is by Dr. Patricia Love and Dr. Steven Stosny. You can get it on Amazon. I borrowed it from the library and will re-read it again soon. Its a very interesting perspective on R's.
