LITB, so glad that you went through it. That was indeed a very good description of what happened without giving it away! Its been a year now since H and I went to Retrouvaille, and it really has helped us so much that we have decided to volunteer our time to help other couples as well. I still remember hofew intense and emotionally exhausting it was, but also how the glow of hope felt....
Retrouvaille did help us get to know ourselves better, and communicate in a "safe" way. One of the things that I realize is that truly, marriages do evolve as we grow older - and passes through all the stages described in the book. The disillusionment and misery phases - which is usually the phase were we all fall apart with the problems - is aggravated by the way we tend to hurt each other in communicating.
Its important to attend the posts, and even after the posts, to keep in touch with the group. Once the excitement and motivation wears off, there is the danger of backsliding, which happened to us actually.
Take care and keep posting!
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
