It's ok to still love him. I think the more we try to styfel that the more backslides we have. I mean come on, our spouses decided to launch into outer space and sling shot around the mood for heavens sake! It's worth a pout or two.
The only advice I can give is really work on understanding how this crisis truly is about THEM and not YOU. Damn near impossible to grasp when all they do is point the finger at you and blame you for everything up from sunrise to sunset. But as you realize how irrational their thinking is, as well as the behavior, etc, it really becomes clear it's about them.
That's when things get a little easier, detatchment becomes easier, and then the real healing can start.
