Having a rough day today. My W and I took a trip this past weekend that we had planned before any of our situation happened. We went with a group of friends and my goal was to have fun. When we got back on Tuesday my W said that although she had fun she thought I "smothered" her. My W got sick twice and I thought I was being nice by tring to help her eat and stay hydrated etc. She got mad and told me she did not need my help. I just did what I thought was the right think to do. I have decided that being in the same house and getting treated like I am is no longer healthy for me (I have lost 25 lbs in 3 months). I told my W that I was going to move out because the overall situation was unhealthy and that I also wanted to work on me while allowing her some space (she made a comment on Tuesday that she thought she was ready for more space). She said that she understood my reasons and that she knew she was treating me badly and that I did not deserve it. She then started to guilt me in wanting to leave. I kept my line in that the existing situation was not healthy. She then started to tell me that she thinks of dating other people at times and that she could not wait for me forever. I was shocked to hear her say that as i have been the one who has been giving her space and told her that I would give her as much as she needed. I told her i did not understand why she was saying that but then after she asked me if I planned on wearing my ring it became obvious. I said I planned on wearing it. She said that she did not want to lie anymore. I told her we have been living a lie for the last 3 months because she has not told anyone about our situation (we have been to her parents house a few times since this all happened). I was very dissapointed to hear her say that she wanted to take her rings off. She said that if I wanted an answer that day I would not like what she would say. I told her that my moving out was not the end all but that I could also not wait around forever. She understood and said she needs to make up her mind but does not know how long it will take. I started to look for a short term lease on an apartment so that I have space for our children. I am trying to hang in there but hearing her say those things really set me back. I am hoping to detach by moving out and letting her feel what it will be like without me in her life. I am struggling with my decision to leave and not sure if it was the right thing to do...
