how do I let her keep going out looking to hook up and just sit by - according to DB is this what I should do ??? I really don't like her going out and getting drunk with people who are supporting her to cheat -- how do I handle this ???
You can’t stop her from hooking up, but that doesn’t mean you have to accept the behavior either. You can set boundaries (with consequences) as you see fit. Just understand doing so could send her packing.
I agree with DB principals AND would not accept an affair while my wife is living in our house. If I learned of that she would be asked to leave. That’s the thing. While we can’t control what others do, we can control our reaction to it.
Read DR and start working on yourself, for yourself ASAP. Keep posting. Best wishes.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
