Update-- had coffee with H this afternoon at his request. He wanted to talk about Retrouvaille. He said that after agreeing to go he looked it up online and that he didn't want to go because it was too religious and he didnt see any hope for our marriage (although he still loved me deeply). I told him I understood that ithe program wasn't offensively religious and that this is exactly what the weekend was for-- couples with little or no hope. I also encouraged him to call our registration couple and talk to them. He said that he would call them and still go because he loved me and wanted to honor my desire to go, he just wanted to let me know where he was at emotionally. So he is still going but things don't look good .... I will leave it up to Gid from here, that's all I can really do.
Even if it's the Catholic one, which we attended (and my h isn't Catholic OR into organized religion)
they were sooo NOT Pushy...I mean there was nothing about the Church said. The word GOD is used, and a spiritual connection w/a spouse is discussed. If that's too much,
then maybe you can attend the inter denominational one, or something...
OTOH, if he's willing to go and you've called ahead about the religious aspects, I think you'll be alright.
For sure if you tell them he has baggage about religion, they'll back off
(though in fairness, I don't know they'd have done anything anyhow, but just in case)
so try not to worry about it too much.
Get yourselves there, and do YOUR Work without wondering if he's doing his, etc....
leave it in God's hands b/c that's really where it is anyhow.
(Just curious, if your h knows he loves you deeply, what is it he wants from life now?)
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
