Well I have a lot of manly things I already do. The problem is that the marriage really didn't end. Just came really close. And she never moved out, but I had to push her to end this thing with this guy. It was odd. She wanted to stay, perhaps for the kids, perhaps because this guy is really a tool who had his own W and kids and wouldn't support her... but that of course wasn't going to work for me. Still I wanted to keep the marriage together. Hence MC and laying down boundaries. She is under no circumstance to resume contact with him and if I find out that she has, the shoe will drop. This is her chance to save the marriage and she can blow it if she wants to. Until then I will give her the benefit of the doubt ...and have sex with her (which may be my quid-pro-quo, but it makes me think she is trying).
