My sitch was VERY quick! There were a lot of things I didn't know (and glad I didn't) that would have changed how I did things. I am in a really good place right now. I am single, not really dating much (my choice), but enjoying all life has to offer. I have lost so much weight (and still losing), I bought a boat, and I went camping this year (last time was in boy scouts). I have talked with my ex several times. We've seen each other a few times (at her work and a drug store). She texts me if something is going on that she thinks I should know about (like things with her mother). I am actually going to invite her over next month so she can see the dogs. One of them probably doesn't have much longer so I want him to see his momma and for her to be able to say goodbye.
Looking back at how all the events unfolded, I was blind as a bat as to what was going on. I was so focused on DBing and believing that it was going to work out, I missed easy things that would have changed how I DB'ed. Now, when I am on these boards, I want to make sure other's aren't as blind as I was. Some of the people are so wrapped up in what their spouse thinks, they are missing obvious signs. So I focus on making sure the DB'er works on themselves. As long as you fix yourself and are happy with yourself, regardles what happens with the spouse, you will be ok.
Do you play any of the phone games (words with friends, etc)?
