Well, if you look at my thread, you will see I somewhat snooped over the weekend and confronted my H and got some lies. I called him out on it and didn't get a denial but didn't get any further explaination. And I didn't ask for one. However, I don't think I have the history that you have.
I've told myself that I need to stop. I've never looked at his phone, just email and then something he had on his computer screen. The sneaking and lying shakes our confidence and we want to snoop more. But in the end, all we are doing is hurting ourselves. I know I am shaking when I snoop, even if I don't find anything, because I know it is wrong, even though I know H is not being 100% honest with me.
As hard as it is, focus on you. Try to find info online about surviving an A, and re-read the MLC and A sections of DR.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together
