Cadet, I'm trying so hard to GAL. I work full-time and go to the gym and out with girlfriends; I try to keep busy. But when those weekends come along if i dont have plans or even most evenings I just fall apart thinking "what is he doing" or "we would be doing such and such". I read the books, see a life coach weekly and things did get easier but I still fall back into that deep, dark place of hopelessness. And I'm not by nature a down kind of person.
I guess I need time......still.
I can only tell you that how you feel is perfectly normal. Take each day as it comes and try to enjoy them. Certainly soon here in the Hudson Valley the leaves will start to change and it will be a a spectacular fall. Go enjoy and try to keep your mind off of this.
As Another Stander said above don't be afraid to take antidepressants or St Johns wort as it is no sin to need these to get yourself through each day.
I can tell you for me learning the whys and howcomes helped at first and let me understand the process and what was happening.
It does not solve the problems but enables you to function each day.
You are going through the stages of grief because your marriage DIED and you must mourn its loss, it is harder than if your spouse really passed away because they are still living and breathing. However you must not run away from this grief but figure out how YOU will combat it. That is the part that you can CONTROL. YOU
Don your oxygen mask and take care of YOU first. That is the most important thing to do.
