You are NOT a mind reader, so you can drop that expectation too! I repeat - it is FREEING. Scary because if you've done it for along time, you will expect repercussions. But drop it.
I am going to write down your responses and hope I can use it some day. I get angry when I am expected to be a mind reader, but I need to get beyond trying to appease him. If I try to involve him and get no response, move on. I'm asking for his input and not getting it. Has your H "learned" from this?
I get accused of all kinds of things that I do "intentionally" which would require a crystal ball to prevent. Like purposefully cooking something he doesn't like or calling him at the most inoppotune times. And I do it on purpose because I know it will upset him, per H. Sometimes I wish he would tape record himself and play it back. Does he really think I like to cry and be bashed?
In trying to think about what I could have done differently in my approach, I also remembered that when I picked D up last night, she called H and told him we were going shopping, but didn't mention where (she didn't know at the time). I don't know if by bring up new dryer, he jumped to the conclusion I was out looking for a new dryer, or that I had possibly bought one.
He's a little bit better this am and came by for his good bye kiss. I'm not trying to understand what in the h3ll is going on over here.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together
