The couples talk, and You listen. Then you either directly /privately communicate with your spouse
OR
you go off by yourself and write...THEN LATER you share what you wrote w/your spouse, again, in private.
I cannot imagine or recall an "activity" that one would have to bow out of for religious reasons. There's no public sharing, although a few people at the end wanted to comment. NO ONE HAS to do that.
Honestly I think the fears are wildly misplaced. But like I said, we went here...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016