Tomorrow is a New Day

[LIO]

Wow do I know this pattern.. WELL.
He's always expected me to be a mind reader.
I have that too. I stopped doing it. Let me tell you something. STOP. IT IS FREEING!
"Oh sounds like you don't care. No problem, I'll take care of it then!"(smile end of convo)

You are NOT a mind reader, so you can drop that expectation too! I repeat - it is FREEING. Scary because if you've done it for along time, you will expect repercussions. But drop it.

I have been handling the repercussions in this way (and very politely, not condescending).
"I am confident that I made the best choice I could. I'm sorry if you disagree, but you didn't have an opinion when we talked about it." I'd be met with something like "Well... huff huff huff". I'd reply with "I'm sorry, if you mentioned something I would have done it."

I do that enough times so now I don't even bother with reading minds. If H has an opinion, he will say it. Otherwise, it's not up for debate.