Hey Fixer!

In my case I was the one who filed for the D. I felt like my health was suffering from the strain of just not knowing what was next for me. I felt (feel) very abandonded.

It sounds like you are doing the right things. Only you know when you have had enough. My D is final, and I still love my X. But he has nothing but contempt for me. And I couldn't continue staying married to him for that. He had some crazy exit plan based on getting the D when our house sold. Well it took 5 months to do an uncontested D. So I am glad I didn't go along with his plan.

Does your W want to stay together 'til your D is 18? Is she WAW in waiting?

It sounds like you have made tons of changes. Stick with it. But take care of yourself. You deserve to be happy.


Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32
D final 9/12
Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!