So exercised, stepped on the scale and have added a few pounds (part of my goal). Yay me!
So I shower, W asks if I was ok to talk. I say sure. So I started off with yeah, u don't need those emails at work, and I reminded her that I'm in the bedroom most nights reading or what not (after the kids go to bed) as a means to give her space, not being mean. So we start off with the bed scenario, I ask the basic idea she has in terms of rearranging things, everything sounds ok. I then say she can use my truck if need be. She admits that she needs to stop relying on me. I agree. So then I ask how she intended on paying for it. She said the joint account, because she has contributed, which she truthfully has, but wow did she get o*say at me asking. I'm a control freak again according to her. I stand up for myself calmly and let we know its a fair question and I was just asking, especially since haven't specifically talked about to divide the money to create our individual accounts, especially because we'll need money for Ls. She says she doesnt want to have to get a L. She adds that this while scenario has made me bitter and has destroyed me. I agreed that it initially did, and now that I'm much better. I did inquire about the different house / rooms / feeling different statement. She said she was unsure. She asked me what I wanted. I said I don't know. We are technically married, yet you're dating someone and not willing to work on the marriage so maybe she can buy her bed and set it up at one if her parent's houses. Yeah, even though I said it nicely, she didn't like that. She got even more angry when I added that the kids would be here. She said she wasn't going to leave the kids. I responded that in effect you will be leaving them at least half the time since she is the one who initiated this whole scenario, not me. I admitted mistakes I've made and how I've tried to correct them and seek forgiveness from her. I added my history of insecurity that no one evidently sees.
So in short, I was rather well composed and didn't raise my voice even when she attacked. Oh, and we didn't make it to the dog part.
Thank you all for the guidance on this conversation. It helped make it a baby rollercoaster, if even that.
Tori, as far as dividing assets, it was more of separating bank accounts and bills (eg student loans), not specific tangible items.
Denver, if you don't mind me asking. What kind of law do you practice?
