So here's my story part 2

[Denver_2010]

"Hi,

I realize you don’t like getting these emails at work, but honestly we have kids crawling all over us all hours of the day. Maybe we can chat about the contents of this email later, but I need to spew it here, so stop reading now if you don’t want to look at this at work.

Several items

I need a bed. Do you know what your face and arms look like when you sleep on that couch for extended amounts of time? I wake up looking like I’ve spent the night in a waffle iron. Are you willing to help me get a bed? I do not want to take time out of your weekend, but I wanted to go to IKEA this weekend. I will probably have to go Saturday in the morning because my guess is that I’m watching NIECE on both Friday and Saturday evening. Can we switch vehicles so you can still do your own thing? Neither Dad, SD’s or BFF’s truck will make it out there, and I know OM has a truck and would help me, but I won’t have to go there unless you refuse to help me.

"W - You are right, I would prefer not to receive these emails while I am at work. There is nothing about any of this that could not be discussed at a more appropriate time.

I understand that you need a bed, and I'm willing to help you move it, but I think that you should hold off until you have found a place to live. I don't see the sense in having to move it twice."

She is using the threat of OM to manipulate you, but I would help her unless it is truly putting you out.

I want to purchase a headboard and frame for me and then a bunk bed and one twin mattress for the boys. I will also have to purchase a twin bed set for one of the boys too. S2 may be cool with dinos and S7 may be in need of another one. I am willing to go to the little place NEAR HOME to look for mattresses and I could do that Friday after school or even in the afternoon, but I am hesitant and you know why (BED BUGS). I realize that this may be a good 500 expense, but at this point I want to get separate houses and maybe if we had separate bedrooms and I felt like I actually had a place to sleep I may feel a bit different.

"You do need to find a new place to live as long as you are still in contact with OM and unwilling to work on this M."

Lawyers – not seeing one this week. There’s too much going on.

"Let me know when you do. I don't agree with you on the options that you listed in your email, but it makes no sense in discussing it until we both have had a chance to speak with a lawyer and learn what our options and responsibilities are legally."

Dog -I say we get one…soon."

"I am not willing to get a dog at this point. I may get one for D and I once you have moved out. Talk to you soon."

My gut response / somewhat thought of response is to lend her my truck as a friend.

Nothing wrong with that.

She does seem to be trying to back me into the corner though by using OM.

No question that she is. It is inappropriate and b.s.

As far as all the purchases, where will that money come from? Our joint acct or hers that she intends on setting up. Rightfully, it shouild be from hers.

Ask her. And don't agree to anything that you are not okay with.

I do must admit, I do like the idea of her "feeling different if she had more space," or is that simply a ploy.

Why do you like that? It is just another manipulative statement. A ploy as you say. Let her move out and see what life will be like on her own. Let her have an opportunity to see both paths that she has created for herself... and to choose.

That's my 2 cents afa.

Denver