Good job not responding to the email. Here is my 2 cents: -You should not discuss any division of assets yet, bc this will hurt the negotiation process (if you end up getting a D.)I would put down what I want and keep it to myself. -Given the current sich, the in-house separation sounds like a horrible thing to me. Is there any way she can move somewhere else? The SIL's? When she says "I might feel a bit different" she means that she would feel more comfortable with the in-house separation. How is this important? DK. Maybe she would be less stressed out and her back less sore, so she would sleep better and think more rationally. -Dog. My H wanted to get me a dog before he moved out so it would "keep me company." I ended up being allergic to it, but he went to see the dogs with me, bought all the dog stuff, etc. He said the dog would be a good excuse to come see me. Whatever. As you can see, WAS's think in weird ways. - I would just tell her that once she moves out, you can each write what you want financially and discuss it once the D is in progress. Delay those conversations as much as possible, but think about what you want now, so you're ready. Good luck, my friend. You're doing great. Tori
