Some of you may or may not view this as unproductive. One trait that’s come to the surface over the years is that my W is VERY selfish. Whether she knows she's selfish or not, I feel it's something she really struggles with. I am trying to understand this trait. It sounds like a lot of people are selfish because of unmet needs. They are also selfish because it’s a way for them to feel “in control.”
From some of the reading I’ve done, it seems really hard for this trait to be turned around, not that I need a "fix it" mentality. Ok, I am contradicting myself but one thing that might help a “selfish” person would be for them to see someone else do “selfless” acts. I believe acts of service is discussed in the 5 LL’s.
It’s kind of a complicated subject for me to fully grasp, I believe we are all selfish to a certain extent. From where I stand now in my sitch, I don’t know if very much of this can be implemented into DB’ing? Below are some of the traits of a selfish person and an interesting statement I read.
Uncaring attitude and a strong “Me first” trait. Manipulative, scheming and plotting. Calculative and accumulators. Low self-esteem. Contemptuous of others. Highly self-centered and self-obsessed.
“The selfishness must be discovered and understood before it can be removed. It is powerless to remove itself, neither will it pass away of itself. Darkness ceases only when light is introduced; So ignorance can only be dispersed by knowledge; selfishness by Love.”
