She used to be everything i could have asked for until her moms hospitalization and subsequent death.

Yes, she has major issues, but i guess, so do i from my reaction to all this.

She had a very dysfunctional childhood with being raised by various other family members or friends while her mom was drinking or drugging and her father divorced her mom when she was 1 year old. There also was some sexual abuse via a female baby sitter when she was 4 to 5 years old. So, yes there is an abundance of baggage that she seemed to have reconciled with by the time i met her, such.. as the abuse and abandonment.

I have been so proud of her on how she seemed to have overcome and accepted her past.

Now it seems understandable why she hardly talks to or visits our son. When she started seeing an individual counselor after D-Day when i discovered her love letters she primarily was telling that counselor how unhappy she was being married to me. The counselor had her buy a book called, The Gaslighting Affect, which seems more of what she was doing to me, rather than the other way around.

Also, that counselor gave her a list of questions

One was, Would Little Eddie be better off living in a home with 2 unhappy parents or with the parents apart but happy?

F'ing loaded and extremely biased question in my opinion.

But, i want to deal with the situation that i have on my plate currently.

Ed


Me, 55 W, 36
T, 10 yrs
S-9
M, 8 yrs
1st D-Day, 9-27-2009, With 1st bf, ea/pa
2nd D-Day, 12-5-2009, With her best friends bf, ea/pa
W, AA relapse early 2009-Current
W moved out 2-16-2012
New OM 5-2012