Divorced #5. And I think Im getting it..

[Mrs D]

And I know exactly what you mean about thinking about them getting closer, but again, recognize that you really know nothing about their relationship and whether they're getting closer together or farther apart. Fix you....make yourself so attractive that there's no other choice for him or any other man. I know that it seems hard to fathom right now, im in the exact same boat, but even with almost zero interaction he'll see, it, hear about it from others...somehow he WILL find out when your life really shines as a result of your changes.

I can only hope so... sorry, like I said - low PMA today. Funny you say that about other men. C was riding scooters with one of his friends last night, and the town cop stopped by to talk to the boys. I went outside to make sure they werent in any kind of trouble, and my neighbor GF was outside and started sending me texts that I was talking to the hottest cop in town, and that she thought he was flirting with me - stopped to talk to the boys to get my attention. Blah blah. She also said that I was a hottie not to mention all the weight that I have been losing. She knows X checks my texts and Im sure that was the reason she was sending them. She said that guys are taking notice of me, and that she wishes I would allow myself to look back. I just returned the text "Love U - wish I could as well. But I love X too much and holding out for him".

[/quote]I had another friend (female) text me last night saying to keep working because the changes im making are 'showing' in my life. Guess those things should have me feeling good, but my wife's demeanor yesterday has me down still.....anyway, not trying to talk about me, just trying to make the point that when your changes have had enough time he'll see them. Im convinced that b/c of history etc that our spouses or ex's are some of the last people to see them b/c they don't wanna admit that they're looking, or that they notice. But once others start to notice and comment then you know that its really showing in your life and at that point he can't help but notice soon as well. [/quote]

Now you know if your friend is noticing, your W is noticing as well!! YAY!!