Divorced #5. And I think Im getting it..

[Mrs D]

Carnac - looks like youve touched others this morning with your post. Thats EXACTLY the thought I had as well. But what do we do? Sit back and fix ourselves, and hope that eventually they come back to us. Thats all we can do, right? Sux.

My PMA isnt too good today. Just feeling impatient again. I know two months isnt close to the amount of time that I continually put him through the stuff I did. And I know its going to take longer than two months to fix myself. I just feel the more time I dont have with him, the closer they are getting. I really do think this is a rebound relation, but they can turn to something more as well. And that scares me. But I also know the person that she is, or had been in previous relations, so Im hoping that side of her comes around. Soon. I pray hard to God daily for his help. And maybe he is, actually Im sure he is - but I just havent seen it yet. I know he is helping me find me again though. I guess that should be all that matters right now. Happy Wednesday! Day 11.

[Carnac]

MrsD: Its going to be that way for a while im afraid, you'll have good days and bad. I think the important thing is that we recognize both, and especially recognize the bad ones.

And I know exactly what you mean about thinking about them getting closer, but again, recognize that you really know nothing about their relationship and whether they're getting closer together or farther apart. Fix you....make yourself so attractive that there's no other choice for him or any other man. I know that it seems hard to fathom right now, im in the exact same boat, but even with almost zero interaction he'll see, it, hear about it from others...somehow he WILL find out when your life really shines as a result of your changes.

My wife sent me a congratulatory text last night that said she was never worried about me winning b/c i've done all the right things....I had another friend (female) text me last night saying to keep working because the changes im making are 'showing' in my life. Guess those things should have me feeling good, but my wife's demeanor yesterday has me down still.....anyway, not trying to talk about me, just trying to make the point that when your changes have had enough time he'll see them. Im convinced that b/c of history etc that our spouses or ex's are some of the last people to see them b/c they don't wanna admit that they're looking, or that they notice. But once others start to notice and comment then you know that its really showing in your life and at that point he can't help but notice soon as well.

[Mrs D]

And I know exactly what you mean about thinking about them getting closer, but again, recognize that you really know nothing about their relationship and whether they're getting closer together or farther apart. Fix you....make yourself so attractive that there's no other choice for him or any other man. I know that it seems hard to fathom right now, im in the exact same boat, but even with almost zero interaction he'll see, it, hear about it from others...somehow he WILL find out when your life really shines as a result of your changes.

I can only hope so... sorry, like I said - low PMA today. Funny you say that about other men. C was riding scooters with one of his friends last night, and the town cop stopped by to talk to the boys. I went outside to make sure they werent in any kind of trouble, and my neighbor GF was outside and started sending me texts that I was talking to the hottest cop in town, and that she thought he was flirting with me - stopped to talk to the boys to get my attention. Blah blah. She also said that I was a hottie not to mention all the weight that I have been losing. She knows X checks my texts and Im sure that was the reason she was sending them. She said that guys are taking notice of me, and that she wishes I would allow myself to look back. I just returned the text "Love U - wish I could as well. But I love X too much and holding out for him".

[/quote]I had another friend (female) text me last night saying to keep working because the changes im making are 'showing' in my life. Guess those things should have me feeling good, but my wife's demeanor yesterday has me down still.....anyway, not trying to talk about me, just trying to make the point that when your changes have had enough time he'll see them. Im convinced that b/c of history etc that our spouses or ex's are some of the last people to see them b/c they don't wanna admit that they're looking, or that they notice. But once others start to notice and comment then you know that its really showing in your life and at that point he can't help but notice soon as well. [/quote]

Now you know if your friend is noticing, your W is noticing as well!! YAY!!

[Mrs D]

So. This is what happened tonight ...
I left work early to have a couple drinks with a friend of mine at work. Left there after an hour, went to another friend of mine in a neighboring town. 3 minutes away. I receive a text from X 45 minutes ago. Are you picking C up 8 or 9? Gonna start a movie with C if you are going to be later. I send back.. I dont have session till Saturday. Whenever. I can pick him up or you can bring him by. He sends back...when were you going to tell me? I send back...Didnt think it mattered. I was going to pick him up. I would have let you know if I was late?? He sends back... i didnt know. I didnt want you waiting for me if I was waiting on you? (Um I didnt let him know I was going to be late like I do every. Time. Im. Late) So I sent back... I would have told you. Im pretty good at communicating when Im going to be later. His response... but you didnt.. Ill bring him home. My response.... I always communicate. Yay! I dont have to drive over. Let me know if you change your mind....

Hee hee... busted... I sooo know hes watching gps and texts. Annnndd I so handled the situation. Yay. Me.

Day 11. Done. No contact. ME!!!

[Mrs D]

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