It has been 16 months now and it seems when I go to move on or go out on a date, mind you I have only had single dates with 3 women. Nothing has progressed and I have not kissed nor been with a women since all this has happened. I am still faithful to my W.
I don't think any of us would blame you if you did, no need to explain yourself. My personal opinion on this (and I know others don't share it) is the marriage vows are null when one spouse voluntarily leaves. Maybe that's the way I have to think about it to detach, but once my W left I no longer considered us married. I do hope we can reconcile some day and create a new marriage, but the old one is dead and gone.
Originally Posted By: witz10
Her belief is we were broken and it can't be fixed. Well how could I have fixed something if I didn't realize it was broken. A mechanic can't fix an engine unless he knows what's wrong first.
Oh man, I can soooo relate. That's been my biggest frustration is why, oh why did W not come to me BEFORE she was ready to walk out the door. I've read Michele's comments in DR about the WAW and understand what she is saying, but there were ZERO clues in my M. My W never even attempted to let me know she was not happy. She expected me to read her mind. In retrospect that's been the biggest issue in my M, my W never, ever communicates anything to me. I have to drag info out of her bit by bit and piece by piece. She never offers up anything. Anyway, it's enormously frustrating to know that I could have easily fixed things by tweaking my behaviors, but never got a chance to do so.
