I guess I will just have to play it by ear. Just figured it would be my LRT/180. I think I am just having a hard time putting together an action plan for how to move forward. Like I said, if I'm still in the house, she has the ability to do whatever she wants. We are still completely cordial with each other so I dont really see an issue with staying, in that respect. She just seems to be actin like a teenager. All her new found friends are 20 something's and single. Why can't she realize she is a 36 year old mother and wife so the single,zero responsibility days are gone!
My plan, if you call it that, will be as follows:
1. Move back in to the MBR, and act like nothing different has happened. I will not say a word about it. If she brings it up, I will just say its my house as well, and this is where I want to be. If she is uncomfortable, she is the one that wants out so she can make the decision to stay or go. I will be as nice, and cheerful. Acting "As-if"
2. GAL. I need to do this. It's going to be hard, and I do not know why. Since I've been married and became a father, I don't really do many things for ME..... I need to show her that I too have a life outside the home. Even if I have nowhere to go, I need to dress nice, and "have plans". I can go to the bookstore, park, somewhere. But I do need to find more hobbies.
3. I need to do a 180, in terms of my mood around her, especially when she has plans, is secretive, etc. I need to understand that I have NOOO control over what she does or who she is with. So these new "guy" friends on FAcebook need to be no concern to me.
4. Guess I will start with those. I also must NOT mention anything about us. This is another very difficult thing to do!
Does anyone else have any suggestions or guidance for me? Are these good goals, he'll I have no clue. I'm just so tired of the same old same. I do not want I give up, but running out of options and patience. If possible, I would love a women's perspective. Maybe "strongerthanever". Any ones advice would be great.
