So my W and I are 3 months into our reconciliation. The last 6 weeks have been more difficult than the first mainly because of wife's work schedule. It is unbelievable how much grading a 7th grade english teacher has! Anyway, it has cut into the amount of quality time that she and I have been able to spend together. Add my SS's problems with school, and it has made it even more stressful.
I guess that we have settled into regular life in a way. For me, that has been a bit difficult. What I learned from my 18 month separation was that my priorities had been skewed prior. I had not put enough time into my family, and way too much time into my work. Now, I am the complete opposite. My W actually made the comment a couple of weeks ago that she is struggling finding the right balance and that she knows that that is what I struggled with before our S. She had just started her teaching job when we separated, so she hadn't had a chance to see how hard it is. I told her that I completely understood, but that I hoped that she would remember that it didn't work for me before, and that it probably won't work for her now.
W was sick this past weekend. I took care of her and spent the entire weekend on the couch with W watching the first 2 seasons of Boardwalk Empire (W wanted to catch up with me so we could watch season 3 together). She is now feeling better and went back to work today. This morning I received the following text from W:
"I want you to know that I love you and I'm happy I'm back home. Thanks for taking care of me while I've been sick."
The text actually caused me to breakdown and cry a little. Out of happiness.
I responded thanking her for telling me that and telling her that her words mean more to me than she probably knows.
Sometimes, what happened with my M still seems surreal... the bad stuff. Sometimes I still can't believe that she left me, and that she made some of the choices that she did during our S.
And then... I think that it is surreal that she is actually back in the home, in our bed. When I first came to this board, I didn't think that I had much of a chance to ever get my W back. To go back and think about that, well, it just seems like a miracle sometimes.
Denver
You deserve all the good things coming your way, my friend.
