Tomorrow is a New Day

[hopefulinga]

I don't think H is at the point that he would go to dinner with me. Before all of this, he would always tell me how tired he was, he was always on the go and hated to go out because he wanted to relax. Plus he said I was a good cook, so why waste the money. What I started to see what that he became very selfish and would not look outside himself to see that going to dinner would give me a break and that maybe he should put his feelings aside to do something his W wanted to do.

I don't think it was always this way, but we were never really let's go out to go out people. There was always something to celebrate or an event we were going to. Since he likes concerts, that is why I tried to suggest one. My best bet is to try again with the concert tickets I have for November.

So looking at it, I guess that cycle is a more of the same I need to figure out how to break. Honestly, even before we were married, we rarely went out just because.

And we never talked about the M before, which is part of our problem. I have no intention of R talk. I will see it by actions not words.

I do know that right now he is ultra stress with being behind at work and I'm having to beat money out of his customers. It helps me to know these things so that I don't take his moods personally, which I am trying not to do. I would like him to tell me he is in that position instead of him making the assumption that I know or should know. However, I am not sure that a discussion is the right thing. I am thinking about leaving him a note that says it helps me to know when you are under stress so that I don't overract, etc.