Time to move over here.

[25yearsmlc]

Hi 25 my D seems ok. We chatted yesterday. I think W has told her not to tell me where they are moving to. I'm ok with that. My D had a key to our house and can always ask the bus driver to drop her off at home. My D will remain on my insurance and phone plan, so I will always reach her. My D was giving decision power as to where she wants to stay. Won't know untill they move.


have you asked her where? Have you told your d that she can be dropped off there if she wants?

Have you assured her that she is welcome, always?

Have you discussed what life might be like with you? In other words, does she know what you offer?

The more details you provide her, the easier it is for her to envision it... (such as how her room might stay the same, or her friends, that you can drive her to school, or whatever...

My concern is that your communication sounds familiar, meaning you still don't speak up or say what's on your mind b/c you are conflict avoidant, which leads you to resentment and then eventually an explosion.

Just a concern. If there's no validity, then ignore my statement.


No one is talking to me about it even when I ask.


Then speak up for yourself and GIVE information, esp to your d. Remember, you are the parent and SHE is the one needing comfort and reassurance from you...make sense?


Truthfully, I'm not sorry it went this way. I'm sorry that I didn't act maturely and did what my exw did, file for a divorce. Sounds nuts?

Not sure what this^^ Means. I thought SHE filed..

Anyhow, how do you feel you are behaving differently now? If your d were asked, would she be able to say SHE SEES a difference in your behavior?


But I was miserable also I just fought her to be something she was not willing or wanted to be. Live and learn.

@la I agree people surprise my all the time.

@kg gracias hope u are doing ok. I'm getting better everyday.

I'm glad you are getting better everyday. Keep it up!