Tomorrow is a New Day

[Wendylon]

I can really relate to your sitch. Like you, my H isn't being honest and like you I am hyper aware of details such as what time he gets home and what he's doing.

From reading your posts, I sense that you might make more progress long-term by emphasising detachment and GAL as opposed to initiating contact with him and being loving. Your plans for the Y and zipwire etc sound great. You want him to see that you're having a great life and that you're not too fussed about whether he's part of it or not. It sounds as if you're doing a lot of the work in terms of taking an interest in your H and being warm. Do you find that you initiate many of the convos?

I can understand you wanting to show him that you care but it may feel to your H as if you're overly focused on him and pursuing him.

As I said, I can relate to your sitch. I also have a child with special needs. It's helpful for me to read your posts and I look forward to following your progress.